YOU ARE SPECIAL

You are God’s own masterpiece! That means you are not ordinary or average; you are a one-of-a-kind original. When God created you, He went to great lengths to make you exactly the way He wanted you to be. He gave you the right personality, the right gifts, the right talents, and the right connections to do exactly what He’s called you to do. The question is: do you recognize the treasure you possess?

 Today, don’t settle for living a mediocre existence. Unlock the hidden treasures inside of you. Every morning when you get out of bed, remind yourself, I am a masterpiece. I am handpicked by God, and I am a person of extreme value and significance. Remember, you are an original, you're not meant to be like everyone else; God designed you the way you are for a specific purpose. Everything about you is unique, and every detail about you matters. Receive His love today because you are His most prized treasure! Amen

The beauty of life lies in what you give rather than in what you get. Living is all about creating and adding value. Add value to someone's life today. A smile may do, a hug,  soothing words, etc. Just make someone’s day worthwhile.

WHO’S A BIG GIRL

A big girl is a girl with enough brain in her not the one with more money and makes no impact. She is not the one who flirts with all the men in her hood but inspire them to be more responsible.

She is the girl who respects her relationship or marriage. You know her from what she does and not what she says.

She is not the most expensively dressed but she is the most decently dressed. Big girls respect the sanity of womanhood. She carries herself with much dignity.

Money doesn’t make you a big girl. Remember that cheap articles have more buyers. Build yourself into the woman that people will always respect and admire.

Never follow the crowd but be yourself. Be bold but humble, be Godly, be hard working, respect your relationship or marriage, be ambitious but contented, don't make men your priority in life but build yourself into the woman that men will always want to take home to their mama, not the one they only want to take to hotels and clubs .

WHAT DOES A MAN WANT?

Men do not want women with bad attitude

They do not want women who nag all the time over small things

Men hate women who compare them with their ex-boyfriends

They don’t want women who never appreciate their efforts

Men don’t like women who are disrespectful

Men hate women who gossip a lot

Men don’t like women who are not hygienic

Men do not like women who are lazy

Men don’t like women who act like dolls or teddy bears in the bedroom

Men don’t like women who do not motivate them

Men do not want women who are not hard-working and supportive

Men do not like women who are not Godly

Men do not want women who hate their family members/ relatives

The most important relationship you experience is the one you have with Yourself. Your many parts comprise the while that is you.
Your intuition is the most powerful part of you. Your intuition, like your Little Voice, comes to you as a little voice in your head.
So, how can you tell the difference between the Little Voice that tries to keep you the same-tries to keep you from making changes - and your intuition which is, by the way, your soul, your Spirit speaking directly to You. How do you know which voice is which?

It is pretty simple actually. Ask a question. The Little Voice will go on and on and on and carry on a whole conversation with you-anything to distract you and keep you from doing whatever it is you want to do, right? On the other hand, if you ask a question to the voice that is your intuition, you won't get a reply at all.
Your intuition gives you a message that is always in your highest and best interest.

Law of Attraction - Love and Relationships
Most of the time when you hear of the Law of Attraction it is in the context of making money and attracting cars and houses and things of a more material nature. The Law of Attraction can be used to manifest ANYTHING that you desire. This includes attracting love and relationships and even friendships that make you feel joy and happiness. Building Trust Relationships in Families
There are many reasons why families fight, but at the very core of all the issues is a lack of trust. Building trust in relationships is integral to keeping your family calm and conflict free. Once you are able to build trust, you can move on to grow in all aspects of your life.

Tips for De-Stressing Relationships
Relationship Stress is caused by one thing, not feeling in control. Five ways to increase control and decrease the stress in relationships include: taking responsibility for you, letting go of controlling the other, taking charge of your position, communicating from knowing yourself and requesting clarification from the other.You might call it your gut feeling. Always follow your gut feelings because those messages are always, always, always in your highest and best interest-coming directly from your Soul. Just do it, whether or not it makes any sense at all.

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FACE TO FACE WITH JESUS-My Experience

My New book titled "MYSTERIES IN TRIPS".

True life account of my Face-to-Face encounter with Jesus as He took me through Heaven and Hell during my three days in the dark after an accident recently.

It’s an unusual book, full of suspense, inspiring, captivating and quite revealing.

Read up secret messages made known for individuals, families, churches, organizations and nations.

Some face to face description and experience of who Jesus really is.

Signs of the end time newly told for people to look out for.

Read the antics of the dark world.

If you need a copy, call or send an sms to:  +2348033552630, +2348023689596

Or mail: victorwaves@yahoo.com with your full name, address, country and location so I can reply you instantly.

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                                                 2012 IS HERE
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My New book titled "MYSTERIES IN TRIPS".

True life account of my Face-to-Face encounter with Jesus as He took me through Heaven and Hell during my three days in the dark after my accident in November 22, 2011. It’s explosive and revealing.

If you need a copy call, send an sms or e-mail to  +2348033552630, +2348023689596 or thewavesofdestiny@yahoo.com with your full name, e-mail address, country and location so I can reply you instantly on how and where you will get copies or other publications. You can also request I send you the book in e-format if you want for a token amount. Get to hear the latest message for the end time signs from Jesus to mankind. Its full of suspense and captivating.

You will be happy you did get a copy!

HE CARES FOR YOU

HE TRULY CARES
With what can you describe the amount of Love the Lord has towards you and me. Ps.103 verse 14 tells us He knoweth our frame and he remembers we are dusts. Beloved, no matter what you are going through, stay strong and stay focussed for it will all come to pass. Jesus cares for you much more than you can ever imagine.

Mt 14:19 And he commanded the multitude to sit down on the grass, and took the five loaves, and the two fishes, and looking up to heaven, he blessed, and brake, and gave the loaves to his disciples, and the disciples to the multitude. 
Mt 6:25 ¶ Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment?
 Lu 12:22 ¶ And he said unto his disciples, Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat; neither for the body, what ye shall put on.

Lu 12:29 And seek not ye what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink, neither be ye of doubtful mind. He is praying constantly for you and needs your attention, because He has an assignment for you. That;s the sole reason why He is still keeping you alive till date, and may you live to fulfill your destiny in Jesus name, Amen.
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10 Rules for Friendly Fighting for Couples

For some people, this is a truly radical idea: There is no need to fight with your partner. Ever. Accusations, recriminations, character assassination, threats, name-calling, and cursing, whether delivered at top volume or with a quiet sarcastic sneer, damage a relationship, often irrevocably. Nobody needs to be a monster or to be treated monstrously. Nobody who yells will ever be heard. In the heat of a moment, it is always a choice whether to go for a run or run your partner down. 

On the other hand, no two people in the world, no matter how made for each other they feel, will ever agree about everything at all times. (It would be quite boring if they did.) Couples do need to be able to negotiate differences. They do need to have room for constructive criticism. They do need a way to assert opinions and to disagree. And they do need to have a way to express intense feelings.

           

Below are some tips to ensure that conflicts will strengthen your marriage instead of harm it.

Embrace conflict.  There is no need to fear it. Conflict is normal, even healthy. Differences between you mean that there are things you can learn from each other. Often conflict shows us where we can or need to grow. 

Go after the issue,  not each other. Friendly fighting sticks with the issue. Neither party resorts to name calling or character assassination. It’s enough to deal with the problem without adding the new problem of hurting each other’s feelings. 

Listen respectfully. When people feel strongly about something, it’s only fair to hear them out. Respectful listening means acknowledging their feelings, either verbally or through focused attention. It means never telling someone that he or she “shouldn’t” feel that way. It means saving your point of view until after you’ve let the other person know you understand that they feel intensely about the subject, even if you don’t quite get it.               

Talk softly. The louder someone yells, the less likely they are to be heard. Even if your partner yells, there’s no need to yell back. Taking the volume down makes it possible for people to start focusing on the issues instead of reacting to the noise. 

Get curious, not defensive. Defending yourself, whether by vehemently protesting your innocence or rightness or by turning the tables and attacking, escalates the fight. Instead of upping the ante, ask for more information, details, and examples. There is usually some basis for the other person’s complaint. When you meet a complaint with curiosity, you make room for understanding. 

Ask for specifics. Global statements that include the words “always” and “never” almost always get you nowhere and never are true. When your partner has complaints, ask to move from global comments of exasperation to specific examples so you can understand exactly what he or she is talking about. When you have complaints, do your best to give your partner examples to work with.

        

Find points of agreement. There almost always are parts of a conflict that can be points of agreement. Finding common ground, even if it’s agreeing that there is a problem, is an important start to finding a common solution. 

Look for options. Fighting ends when cooperation begins. Asking politely for suggestions or alternatives invites collaboration. Careful consideration of options shows respect. Offering alternatives of your own shows that you also are willing to try something new.

Make concessions.  Small concessions can turn the situation around. If you give a little, it makes room for the other person to make concessions too. Small concessions lead to larger compromises. Compromise doesn’t have to mean that you’re meeting each other exactly 50-50. Sometimes it’s a 60-40 or even 80-20 agreement. This isn’t about scorekeeping. It’s about finding a solution that is workable for both of you. 

          

Make peace. An elderly friend who has been married for 68 years tells me that she and her husband made a rule on their wedding day never to go to bed angry. They agreed from the outset that the relationship is more important than winning arguments. Sometimes this meant they stayed up very, very late until they came to a workable compromise. Sometimes it meant that one or the other of them decided the issue wasn’t really important enough to lose sleep over. Since they both value the marriage, neither one gave in or gave up most of the time. When one did give in or give up, the other showed appreciation and made a peace offering of his or her own. These folks still love each other after 68 years of the inevitable conflicts that come with living with another person. They are probably onto something.

How can family squabbles be best reseolved? In your words, mail me on: thewavesofdestiny@yahoo.com

REASONS WHY WOMEN NAG

NAGGING! 

Women nag about their husbands’ uselessness because it makes them feel more feminine. From a new study researchers insist that men’s lack of effort on the domestic front could actually be a myth created by their partners, as female breadwinners feel guilty about devoting too much time to their career, and not enough to their role of wife and mother.

              

By complaining about their husbands' alleged shortcomings, they feel more feminine because they can control the traditionally female role of maintaining the home and family.

“Working women who provide the majority of the household's income continue to articulate themselves as the ones who see household messes and needs as a way to retain claim to an element of traditional female identity,”

 

The researchers say that nagging about their husbands’ inability to do specific household chores, female breadwinners try to make sure that they still fit gender stereotypes of a wife as someone who manages the home and children.

“By directing the housework done by their husbands, they maintain a sense of control over the traditionally feminine sphere of the home”.

Can you share with me why most women NAG!
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BLESSINGS AND CURSES

The Elements of Blessings and Curses 

What is a curse? The simplest way to define a curse is to say it is the opposite of a blessing. But this is so simple and would easily make some to easily label anything bad a curse. 

It is scripturally true that the whole creation is under a curse or bondage from God having fallen through the Original Sin of Adam and Eve. “Therefore, just as sin entered the world through one man, and death through sin, and in this way death came to all men, because all sinned,” Romans 5:12.

“For the creation was subjected to frustration, not by its own choice, but by the will of the one who subjected it, in hope that the creation itself will be liberated from its bondage to decay and brought into the glorious freedom of the children of God,” Romans 8:20-21.

Yet the context that we’d define such a type of a curse or bondage is only in the context of the Original Sin that God brought on all creation. Outside the context of the Original Sin we’d end up labelling everything bad thing in our lives a curse. Even persecution, trials of faith, every sickness, every failure, every accident, every type of poverty, carrying the spiritual cross, and so on would be labelled curses. 

1.  Blessings

a.  Bountiful provision.

b.  Protection and security.

c.  Peace and Harmony.

d.  Love the motivating force.

2.  Curses

a.  Loss or theft.

b.  Destruction or hurt.

c.  Strife and conflict.

d.  Fear the motivating force.

 

Sources of a Curse

1. Violation of the Law - the Old Covenant.

2. The words of man

a.  Noah cursed his son's generations.

b.  Curses of the Patriarchs on their children.

c.  Peter curses Ananias and Sapphira.

3. Associations 

a.  Identification with another person.

b.  Transmitted through conversation.

4. Family generations

a.  Third and fourth generations.

b.  Family sicknesses and disease.

c.  Family poverty.

d.  Family conflicts. 

5.  Breaking the spiritual Links - cut the umbilical cord.

a.  Break links with parents.

b.  Break links with spouse.

c.  Break links with other family members.

d.  Break links with other believers.

 

Dealing with curses

1.  Deal first with personal sin.

Bitterness.

Lust.

Temporal Values.

2.  The Law of Judgement.

Look for the signs. 

Let go of the judgment.

3.  Family generations

Apply James 4:7

Submit to God.

Resist the devil.

 

4.  Associations

a.  Break spiritual links with daily contacts.

b.  Deal with words spoken against you.

Mostly other believers.

Do not permit bitterness.

Send words back where necessary.

c.  Contamination may be removed by prayer

Hold it up to the Lord.

Transmute it out of darkness into light.

Speak blessing on it.

TIPS TO PREVENT SCANDALS IN LIFE

The world has seen quite a few ministry scandals over the past year. Fortunately, these are 10 tips on how you can prevent scandal in your own life. 

     

Here is a summary.

Live a humble, transparent life.

Stay open to correction. 

Audit your actions regularly. 

Stay in touch with the real world.

Ministry is about loving people. But you will never develop compassion unless you are close enough to the grass roots to smell the poverty, lay hands on the sickness and cry with those who are in pain.

Don’t allow people to make you a celebrity.

Make family a priority.

Live modestly and give extravagantly.

Don’t build your own kingdom.    

Develop keen discernment.

Maintain your spiritual passion.

     

People who experience moral failure almost always lose their spiritual passion first.

No matter how scandalous it just might seem, still ask God for forgiveness for He still cares.