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September 14, 2010


  The benefits of forgiveness are huge:
  • Relief of emotional and physical stress,
  • Freedom from the pain of the past,
  • Greater happiness in the present and
  • Greater health and well-being.
The idea of forgiveness is simple.
Just let go of all of your resentments and anger.
But the practice of forgiveness may seem difficult.
Some of us hold on to our resentments because they "seem so justified"
Some people actually get pleasure from their resentments.
how to deal with anger can really help.

The cost we pay for holding on to resentment is very high.
Resentments are very stressful and weigh us down with the inflated
burdens of the past.
Holding resentments doesn’t punish the other person, it punishes us.

Forgiveness does not change the past.
What ever happened ... has happened .... it is done.
But our feelings about the past can change.
The amazing benefit of forgiveness is this;

When we make peace with the past,
forgiveness frees us to enjoy ...
a better, healthier, happier life right now.

September 7, 2010


What if you could say or do just the right thing guaranteed to make that special someone feel loved? The secret is learning the right love language! Millions of couples have learned the simple way to express their feelings and bring joy back into marriage:

Words of Affirmation
Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward.

Quality Time
In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

Receiving Gifts
Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous.

Acts of Service
Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.”

Physical Touch
This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.