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December 30, 2010

Enjoying Your Profession And Your Life

Pursuing a profession doesn't imply having to decide on your job over your life. If you know the right way to make a balance between work and your personal life, then you won't really need to choose one over the other. To be your best in both, however, it's wise to create a system which works for you. Your ability to manage time is actually among the top two causes of success or failure in your life. Exactly what can you do to lead your way to success?   
Start a commitment notebook for your tasks. By doing this, it gets easier to track your to-do lists and work deadlines. And also, you can even log in your personal targets you may incorporate into your work schedule, like a fitness regimen you've been dying to try for instance. If you notice your work laid out that way, balancing an enjoyable life and a stellar career will be very simple. It facilitates to define the importance of the different aspects of your life so that you know what you could concentrate on. A real successful individual will continue doing things that matter.


Certainly, you will encounter stress as you go along. Say no to stress-eating. More importantly, understand the importance of laughter. This is a foolproof stress buster. Sharing your humor with others helps in reducing any awkwardness or stress brought on by work. You should know that you have a purpose in life.

Working towards this purpose at a gradual but steady pace will keep you hopeful even during your darkest moments. Handle things calmly but have a sense of responsibility. This should keep your smile on in spite of difficulties. It is inborn in a person to recognize what their purpose is, they only need time and energy to soul search and understand what needs to be done. When you stick to what you have been supposed to do, you will live in harmony with the rest of the world.
The balance you are seeking must be found within. It just needs to be rediscovered and unearthed. Take hold of what you have now and celebrate what is yet to come.

December 7, 2010

How To Overcome Challenges in Christian Courtship.

Relationships and courtships are not easy. They are full of ups and downs, you and your partner can be happy and enjoying each other’s company one minute and the next minute you can be angry and upset with each other.
That’s just the nature of relationships, whenever two different people who have had different upbringings and life experiences along with the natural differences we have as men and women, try to function as one unit, there are bound to be problems and challenges. If you have been in your courtship or relationship for a while now, you will have began to notice that it’s not all a bed of roses.
There are obstacles and challenges that you will face and are probably facing right now in your courtship. The first thing I want to say is that you should celebrate these challenges because they come to test your relationship to see if you really have something genuine and strong.
If your Christian courtship is able to stand and be strong despite all the challenges you face, it is a good sign that you have something solid. If the challenges drive the two of you apart then it means that your relationship probably isn’t strong enough and it’s better for the courtship to break up than for your marriage to break up.

You have to come to a place in your relationship where you can be yourself, where your partner gets to see not only your strengths but also your weaknesses, this is important because whoever you are going to marry needs to be able to accept you with your flaws. Don’t ever get married to someone when you haven’t shown them who you really are and when you haven’t seen the real them and what they are like when they get angry and upset. If you have never had disagreements, misunderstandings and challenges in your courtship, that could be a very bad sign, it might mean that you are both sweeping the things that offend and annoy you under the carpet in the attempt to avoid confrontations.

There is no courtship or relationship that doesn’t experience one challenge or the other, even the happiest of couples have areas of differences, what keeps them happy is the fact that they are able to still love each other unconditionally despite of their differences. So don’t run just because you have areas of differences and misunderstandings, learn to communicate, forgive
and strive to overcome the challenges and obstacles you face in your courtship and if you are able to overcome these challenges then it means you have a solid relationship. Above all, pray together.


December 6, 2010

How to overcome Setbacks

Life has a way of throwing roadblocks in our paths. You don't get that promotion at work you were sure was yours. A family member gets a shocking medical diagnosis. Your partner is having an affair. All life altering for sure, but as with most unwelcome surprises, the key to moving forward and not staying stuck in the setback is how you react. How do you navigate around them and stay on track?
"Day to day issues can seem minor, but they do add up, whether at work, school or home". "For a mom, trying to be a good mom while attempting to get things done can be stressful. She's got to figure out how to take care of herself and do something positive, even relaxation techniques and deep breathing exercises."

Sometimes just a shift in a negative pattern is all it takes to remove a roadblock. The way we think impacts the way we feel. No matter what happens, there are always different ways of looking at the situation. Setbacks that are serious usually include shock, denial, anger, acceptance of the loss and grieving the loss of a vision. Even though the time factor is integral to healing, most of us can handle setbacks better than we think. "What we don't do well is regroup and create a new vision".

The secret to long-term success with setbacks is seeing and sticking to a vision of what you want -- seeing yourself cross the finish line and win the race. Setbacks don't have to be negative.  When you have a setback, you can either wallow in it forever or get out of that state of mind by taking steps forward, whether big or small. 

The following are some strategies to deal with setbacks:
Identify the setback. Realize that it's your choice to go in whatever direction you choose.
Ask yourself what are the positive actions you can take.
Look at your past successes and write down three of your strengths.
Take action on 10 things -- a class, exercise, go on a trip or out with your friends.
Meet up with someone new, possibly someone you've been meaning to call.
Focus on where you want to go, not the problem, and don't use excuses.

Sometimes we create our own setbacks and get consumed in the problem without seeing the possibilities. "Roadblocks are opportunities to go in better, different directions.  Whatever roadblocks may come your way, "You've (gotten over them) before, you can do it again.


November 14, 2010


Most marriages commonly start from "a boy meets girl" story that developed into a special relationship bonded by love, commitment and trust that seem to be never ending. That beautiful union is eventually sealed - in a rite of marriage - by a vow of fidelity and love for each other and only death can break them apart.

Generally, people decide to marry because of LOVE and the happiness and fulfillment it brings. Others go into marriage for convenience; companionship or security reasons while some individuals follow the words of the Bible. There are also a few people who give in to the pressures of family and society that's why they marry. If you and your partner are thinking of tying the knot anytime soon, this article will give you a better understanding of the essence of marriage and this will hopefully serve as your guide in making that BIGGEST decision in your life and how to make it work.

A good marriage is unique to every couple. There is no model for perfect marriage. Finding the right person who shares your meaning of an ideal and blissful married life is the key to it. Between you and your partner, there should be love, trust, respect, open communication, honesty, humility, appreciation and a good sense of humor, sharing of responsibility and absolute commitment and fidelity.

A marriage will work when there is no pride between you and your partner and when you can still love each other even during times of distress or when things don't turn out right. You must know how to accept both your faults and being able to forgive.
Another factor that can make your marriage click is to become each other's best friend. You must share similar goals and hopes like a team and you should have respect for each other's families. Most of all, keeping the romance alive, spending time together and enjoying a good sex can certainly make your marriage better and exciting.

We all know by now that not all marriages are a bed of roses. Some have been difficult but couples succeeded to save them. Unfortunately, there are others that ended up in divorce. Making a marriage work is a mutual effort by the couples and it takes work. Communication plays a vital role in keeping a good marriage. Couples should be able to discuss issues concerning their relationship, including children, work, and sex or even household management. What is important is that couples should spend quality time together despite hectic schedules and do something together that they both enjoy.

Whatever your reasons or purpose for getting married, don't forget that the ultimate foundation that will make it work is the LOVE that you both shared from the time you two met and made plans of spending your life together forever as husband and wife. So, don't let that love fade away!

November 5, 2010

Maximizing Your Potentials

Beginning today, don't wait for anyone to make you feel good. Become your own best friend.
Here are three steps to help you get started:

* 1. Look inside yourself to see what gives you the most satisfaction, and then go for it.
* 2. Become familiar with the people and places where you feel respected and valued.
* 3. Learn to encourage yourself. Make it a natural habit.

When you don't value yourself as a person, you may not be able to recognize all of your strengths. When you begin to encourage yourself, you'll become more satisfied with your life. As you begin to recognize and value your own strengths and resources, you'll start to give yourself more positive messages. As you become more satisfied with yourself, you won't feel a need to compare yourself with others. Instead, you will note your own progress and set your own standards. You'll feel like working with people, not against them.

Now, here are ten steps to help you build your self-esteem.

* 1. Adapt the attitude that you are a responsible and dependable person. Others will respect you and come to you willingly.
* 2. Do things for others before they ask you and without waiting for recognition. In other words, do things spontaneously for others because you want to; don't wait until someone says you have to.
* 3. Freely contribute your opinions and suggestions with your family. You'll feel better and your family will benefit.
* 4. Participate in the decision-making process at work, at home, and at civic clubs. When your actions show people that you make and carry out responsible decisions, they will respect you much more for having done so.
* 5. Accept the mistakes you make for what they are: simply human errors. Realize that making mistakes is part of being human. Learn from them and move on.
* 6. Focus on the why of your actions rather than on the what. Look at the effort and energy you put into doing something and the reasons behind it rather than looking so much at what you do.
* 7. Become an expert at looking for the positive potential in yourself and others. By learning to tune in to yourself and others, you'll become an expert on building closer, more trusting relationships.
* 8. Have confidence in your ability to make good judgment. As you start believing in yourself, others will, too.
* 9. Develop the habit of expecting positive things to happen. Even when disappointments set in, expect positive things to happen. You'll soon learn that they will.
* 10. Look at different ways of seeing a situation. Use your creative abilities and look beyond the first right answer. Self-esteem is having the I-CAN attitude in what you say and do.

Remember: When you maximize your potential, everyone wins. When you don't, we all lose.


November 2, 2010

How to overcome discouragement

If you have a goal, then you’ll probably face a lot of discouragement. Rejection, criticism, frustration, obstacles and failure are all part of the package.

Instead of affirmations, motivate yourself with ideas. It's been found out that ideas flowing are a far better remedy for an emotional setback than telling myself I’m a good person. Generating new ideas, solutions and goals can snap you out of a negative state.

Here are some motivational idea-generating tips:
1.Do Something Creative. If you’re recovering from a particularly disappointing setback, getting new ideas won’t be easy. Trying to tackle the problem directly may backfire. Instead, spend a few hours doing something creative and relaxing. Drawing, painting and building can start your idea-generators going in the background before you try to motivate yourself.

2.Listen to Audio Tapes. It’s a good idea to have a few motivational audio tapes. These can help steer your thinking away from negative thoughts and towards new ideas. The content of these programs isn’t usually groundbreaking, but where it starts, you can usually continue in generating new ideas.

3.Journal. Write down all of your ideas on paper. Explore any problems you face and start thinking of possible solutions. Writing is better than just thinking, because you have more control over where your thoughts lead. Journaling gives you an added layer of control over your mind.

4.Review and Plan Goals. Go over your goals. Review, change them and set new ones. Setting new goals can restart the enthusiasm you might have lost after a setback. When you get stressed after a particular negative result, tweaking your goals and reminding yourself of them can start you on the flow of ideas once more.

5.Meditate. Meditation can help if you treat it as an interactive self-dialog. Practice your breathing and visualization until you can start creating other characters in your mind. You can then “talk” with these characters to sort through problems. The intense focus combined with relaxation can often give ideas you would otherwise miss.

6.Exercise. One of the major symptoms of depression is a lack of energy. While your temporary setback might be nothing compared to full-blown depression, a bad mood can drain the energy out of anyone. Exercising can be the first step in reversing this trend by boosting your energy. Even going from apathetic to angry can be a stepping stone to rebuilding your enthusiasm.

7.Posture and Body Language. Standing and moving as you would if you were in an enthusiastic state can be enough to trigger the feelings of enthusiasm. Dont take this as a magic cure-all, but if you are feeling down, the first step should be to adjust your posture.

8.Spend Time With “Idea Magnifiers”. Some people can do a great job of magnifying and reflecting any enthusiasm you have. Spending time with these people and avoiding negative people can also help. This step isn’t as easy as it sounds. Identifying the people that actually cause a change in your mood rather than the people who tolerate your complaining is critical.

9.Achieve Something Easy. A good way to look at motivation is like a ball rolling down a hill. If it hits an obstacle, all of the momentum stops. However, only a slight push forward can start the ball rolling again. Take on a simple task you know you can accomplish. Organize your office. Go to the gym. Empty your inbox.

Motivation is Built in Steps. Starting with a small idea-generating activity can be better for recharging your motivation than with a big one.


November 1, 2010


Imagination is the ability to form a mental image of something that is not perceived through the senses. It is the ability of the mind to build mental scenes, objects or events that do not exist, are not present or have happened in the past. Memory is actually a manifestation of imagination. Everyone possesses some imagination ability. In some it may be highly developed and in others it may manifest in a weaker form. It manifests in various degrees in various people.
Imagination makes it possible to experience a whole world inside the mind. It gives the ability to look at any situation from a different point of view, and enables one to mentally explore the past and the future.
It manifests in various forms, one of which is daydreaming. Though too much idle daydreaming may make one impractical, some daydreaming, when not being engaged in something that requires attention provides some temporary happiness, calmness and relief from stress.

In your imagination you can travel anywhere in the speed of light without any obstacles. It can make you feel free, though temporarily, and only in the mind, from tasks, difficulties and unpleasant circumstances. A developed and strong imagination does not make you a daydreamer and impractical. On the contrary, it strengthens your creative abilities, and is a great tool for recreating and remodeling your world and life.

This means that we should think only in a positive manner about our desires, otherwise we may create and attract into our lives events, situations and people that we don't really want. This is actually what most of us do, because we don't use the power of imagination correctly.

Lack of understanding of the power of the imagination is responsible for the suffering, incompetence, difficulties, failures and unhappiness people experience. For some reason, most people are inclined to think in a negative way. They do not expect success. They expect the worst, and when they fail, they believe that fate is against them. This attitude can be changed, and then life will improve accordingly.

Understanding how to use your imagination correctly, and putting this knowledge into practice, for your own and others' benefit, will put you on the golden path to success, satisfaction and happiness.


October 28, 2010


1. Life's blows cannot break a person whose spirit is warmed at the fire of enthusiasm.
2. Deeds, not stones, are the true monuments of the great. Let us endeavor to live so that when we come to die even the undertaker will be sorry.
3. Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habits. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.
4. A friend is the one who comes in when the whole world has gone out. A true friend is someone who is there for you when he'd rather be anywhere else. 
5. We will often find compensation if we think more of what life has given us and less about what life has taken away.
6. It is by what we ourselves have done, and not by what others have done for us, that we shall be remembered for after ages.
7. Remove the log of wood in your own eyes before you offer to remove the speck of dust in your neighbor’s eye.
8. Silence is the sleep that nourishes wisdom. It is not so important who starts the game but who finishes it.
9. Motivation is a fire from within. If someone else tries to light that fire under you, chances are it will burn very briefly.
10. To put the world right in order, we must first put the nation in order; to put the nation in order, we must first put the family in order; to put the family in order, we must first cultivate our personal life; we must first set our hearts right.


October 14, 2010


Just a Simple Smile:
How often have you woken up on the wrong side of the bed or had a bad encounter with someone and assumed the rest of your day would follow suit? Then, out of the blue, you are side swapped with a smile from a stranger or friend. You physically feel lighter, with a glimpse of hope for the rest of your day. A simple smile actually turned your day around. Who can deny the power of a smile, the impact a smile can make from one person to another?
Commit to Smiling:What if you harnessed that same logic for yourself and committed to smile even when you weren't feeling in the best of moods. Could you change your own mood and situation by "faking" to be happy? At the very least you could make someone else feel good. Would the act of smiling impact your mood? It is truly amazing what a simple act of kindness can do for yourself and others around you. Who is to say your smile didn't come at the exact right moment for someone having a horrible day? Your actions will soon become habit and you will wonder why you are feeling more optimistic and genuinely happy. Here are three ways to get you smiling this week!

1. Smile for the Sake of SmilingMake an effort to smile more during the day. Smile to yourself as well as others and notice the impact it has on everyone. Most of us don't realize the effect we can have on others' lives. Make it a point this week to smile when you least feel like smiling.
2. Write it DownThis week, make a point of writing down your experiences with the "smile experiment". Keep a journal or notepad and write down every evening what effect your smiling had. Write down how you felt. Write down how it affected your day. Write down the differences it made. Being aware and fully present not only keeps you in the moment, but opens your eyes to the power of your actions.

3. Impact AnotherThis week, make a commitment to smile at 5 strangers every day. It may feel awkward at first, but again, this is about expanding your comfort zone. You can truly make a difference in the life of another with a simple smile. Try it out this week and see how it feels. Notice how it changes your own outlook. Common give me a wild smile!


Your Thoughts Are Powerful

What thoughts dominate your life?
Do you ever stop to notice?
Most people are unaware of the impact their thinking has on their lives.
However your thoughts directly affect your mood and self-esteem. Here’s a little experiment.
The next time you feel sad, angry, or anxious for no apparent reason, take a moment to observe what you were just thinking and jot it down. It could be quite a revelation!

How you think and feel also affects your body. Your thoughts have a powerful influence on your mental, emotional and physical health. For example, if you are in the habit of entertaining self-critical, pessimistic
thoughts, you may find that your body becomes tense from that stress. This can lower your immune system.

How Your Thoughts Affect Your Health.
The relationship between your thoughts, emotions, and your immune system can be explained in physiological terms. According to Dr. Christiane Northrup in her book, Healing Toxic Emotions, when you think a thought or feel a feeling, it communicates itself to every cell in your body by way of small protein molecule messengers called neuropeptides. Neuropeptides, also known as neurotransmitters, are the chemicals
produced by the brain to communicate with every cell in your body.

Hormones, which function like neurotransmitters, also involve communication among the cells. The hormonal level of your body fluctuates according to your emotional state. How you perceive stress has a dramatic effect on the production of immune molecules in the bloodstream as well as certain immune cells via messages from the hypothalamus, the control center of the brain.

Both positive as well as negative thoughts affect your immune system. Positive thoughts and feelings cause your neurotransmitters to move your immune system towards health and balance. However, a predominance of negative thinking taxes your immune system throwing it out of balance.


October 12, 2010


You may wonder why things just don't seem to go your way. Each time you add another limitation like mentioning something you can't do or indicating a reason why your dream won't happen or even justifying why ideas are impossible, you may stifle creativity and define your life path. Although a negative comment may appear insignificant on its own, when added to the others, they may become 'the straw that broke the camel’s back.' How can we discover the sources of our hidden limitations and eliminate them?

1) Learn to recognize how you limit yourself. If you choose to focus only on your strengths and deny your weaknesses, this may hinder more than help you. Learn instead about your own reasons for your sense of weakness. How do your beliefs hold you back? As you realize why you benefit from all your skills and qualities, this will assist you to rise above your self-imposed limitations.

2) Ask people for input. What you perceive as your 'trouble spots' may differ from what other people think. By asking for feedback, you may open your eyes to new personal qualities you didn't recognize. Consider people who have told you what they think you can or can't do. Other people's views of your character may not always be accurate. It's up to you to find the courage to inquire, to learn to discern the difference and come to accept your own view of the truth.

3) Evaluate possible action. Once you have an idea of the kinds of things that hold you back, the next thing is to devise what you'll do to swing things in your favor. Defining a challenge enables you to pay more attention to detail. Whether its the state of your health and well-being and a desire to improve a quality of life, your view of behavior in relationships or the workplace and the aim to rethink interactions, or discontent in another area of your life, its to your advantage to review possible approaches that will help you move forward on your terms.

4) Commit yourself to take action. Regardless of your circumstances, you have the choice to alter your beliefs and take new kinds of action to refine and expand on your view of success. Deciding you wish to understand yourself better is paramount. This isn't only a desire to isolate and clarify your goals, but also a desire to learn why you fear or hesitate to reach them. Why you hold yourself back and how may ultimately surprise you. Knowing is the first step to overcoming such obstacles.

October 11, 2010


A habit is any action that we have performed so often that it becomes almost an involuntary response. If we consider this habit to be undesirable then we may label it a "bad habit". People spend countless hours and dollars each year attempting to break these bad habits and often do not have any success. Why? Because there is no magic bullet. Change is hard work and there is no short cut to achieving it. To effect a change in habits, one needs to bring the action back into the realm of consciousness and regain the ability to make choices.

Substitute Better Behaviors: The whole reason you formed your habits in the first place is that they filled a need. You had tension that needed relief or you had a desire to surf the Net. As you break the old patterns you still need a way to fulfill these needs. You will be not only making an active choice to not do the old action you will also be making a choice to perform a better, alternative action in its place. What the new habit is that you substitute isn't so important as whether you feel good about the choices you have made. After all, the reason you consider it a bad habit is because it leaves you feeling bad about yourself.

The only way to continue with a bad habit for very long is to sink back into denial of why you are doing it in the first place. You will be forced to make a choice, whether good for bad, about continuing your habit. What choices will you make? The one that makes you feel bad about yourself or the one that makes you feel good? It's up to you.


September 14, 2010


  The benefits of forgiveness are huge:
  • Relief of emotional and physical stress,
  • Freedom from the pain of the past,
  • Greater happiness in the present and
  • Greater health and well-being.
The idea of forgiveness is simple.
Just let go of all of your resentments and anger.
But the practice of forgiveness may seem difficult.
Some of us hold on to our resentments because they "seem so justified"
Some people actually get pleasure from their resentments.
how to deal with anger can really help.

The cost we pay for holding on to resentment is very high.
Resentments are very stressful and weigh us down with the inflated
burdens of the past.
Holding resentments doesn’t punish the other person, it punishes us.

Forgiveness does not change the past.
What ever happened ... has happened .... it is done.
But our feelings about the past can change.
The amazing benefit of forgiveness is this;

When we make peace with the past,
forgiveness frees us to enjoy ...
a better, healthier, happier life right now.

September 7, 2010


What if you could say or do just the right thing guaranteed to make that special someone feel loved? The secret is learning the right love language! Millions of couples have learned the simple way to express their feelings and bring joy back into marriage:

Words of Affirmation
Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward.

Quality Time
In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

Receiving Gifts
Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous.

Acts of Service
Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.”

Physical Touch
This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.

July 29, 2010

June 25, 2010


We can only identify true love and know when we have found it, based on the Word of God. When we match our relationships up to what the Bible says that love is—and we are honestly prepared to make a life-long commitment to that person—then we can say that we are truly “in love.” The three keys to that statement are:
We have to…
look at the Word of God
be completely honest with ourselves

Understand the level of commitment that comes with true love.


June 19, 2010


1. Pick the field you wish to specialize in; learn all you can about it, study the lives of the persons who have had outstanding success in that field, then strive to emulate their pattern of thinking.
2. Each day strive to put into action one or more of the qualities or traits that you have learned from the lives of great people.
3. Take specialized training to perfect your gifts and talents.
4. Let what I call Discontent motivate you in your desire to achieve perfection. Never be satisfied with your present accomplishments or progress.
5. Aim for the stars, even though you may not achieve them. At least such an ambitious mind will assure you of reaching some kind of high goal.
6. Create a vortex of mental activity about yourself. Break the inertia which may be holding you back by doing something, almost anything is preferable to sitting back and refusing to make an effort.
7. Never be satisfied with the limitations that life seems to have placed on you and your expression of your talents. Remember, all great people had to break the mould of negativity and limitation to achieve their dreams.

The power is within your mind to rise as high as you aspire. If you lack the education, look about you for the means to improve your mind and acquire knowledge.

June 18, 2010


To change the world, you must follow your dream. Yes, follow your dream, take one step at a time, but just continue climbing. Follow your dream, if you stumble, don’t stop; keep your eyes on your goal, and press on to the top. When you’re at the top, you can see the whole view and you can see all what you have done so far and that which you can still do.

Is the pursuit of your dream like the climbing of a steep mountain? The climbing can be long, agonizing, and seemingly never ending. Only you can tell which mountain you have left unclimbed. There need to be no pretense with yourself. Are you climbing over your mountain, or are you celebrating on the peak of a smaller one? The minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than you settled for.


Our world is but a reflection of who we are. Therefore, if we want to change the world, all we have to do is change ourselves. We don’t need to change our parents for raising their voices at us, but rather, we need to listen to them carefully when they speak.

We don’t need to change those who treat us like little kids, but rather act more maturely around them. We don’t also need to change our supervisors or bosses for not trusting us, but rather do an outstanding job consistently and gain their trust.

This world is not something mystical or unknown. The world is the exact reflection of that which we choose to ignore about ourselves. The way to change the world is not by changing the world itself, but by changing ourselves.

June 17, 2010


We can either build a strong foundation with the bricks that life throws at us or be crushed by them. One of the sure secrets of life is to make stepping stones out of stumbling blocks.

Know that you can either build a strong foundation with the bricks that life throws at you, or be crushed by them. Our success does not depend on our lives’ circumstances, but rather, our success depends on what we do about them. There is nothing in this world that can ever prevent us from succeeding, unless we allow it to.

Some people use adversities as pretext for not moving forward, and thereafter, they live life wondering… ‘what would have happened if this,…if that?’ We can save ourselves from all that trouble if we see occasional hardships as a mere tool to move forward. So then, do what you can, with what you have, where you are. Remember, you don’t measure people’s successes by how high they climb, but by how high they bounce when they hit the bottom at any point in time. WORD!



When things go wrong, as they sometimes will, when the road you’re trudging seems all uphill, as they sometimes would, when the funds are low and the debts are high, you want to smile, but you have to sigh, I say take a REST if you must REST, but don’t you call it quit yet.

Often, the goal is nearer than it seems to a faint and faltered man. Most often, the struggler might have given up when he’s just about capturing the victory cup. Success like you know is failure turned inside out. It may be near when it seems afar; Just stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit, for it’s when things seem worse that you must not quit.

Keep in mind that making it is not a place to get to, but a constant process that we all must undergo. Right now, we might be making it, though it might not feel like we are. Do remember that most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.

June 16, 2010


If: A B C D E F G H I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Z Is represented as:
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26.
If: H-A-R-D-W-O- R- K 8+1+18+4+23+ 15+18+11 = 98%
And: K-N-O-W-L-E- D-G-E 11+14+15+23+ 12+5+4+7+ 5 = 96%
But: A-T-T-I-T-U- D-E 1+20+20+9+20+ 21+4+5 = 100%
THEN, look how far the love of God will take you:
L-O-V-E-O-F- G-O-D 12+15+22+5+15+ 6+7+15+4 = 101%
Therefore, one can conclude with mathematical certainty that:
While Hard Work and Knowledge will get you close, Attitude will get you there,
It's the Love of God that will put you over the top!

The Love of God is the needed extra you have to display to achieve amazing results.


The daily ups and downs of our emotions are one of the major struggles we have with our relationships. Instead of riding the emotional roller coaster, we need to become stable, solid, steadfast, persevering and determined people. If we continue to let our emotions rule over us, there’s no way we’ll ever be the person we were meant to be. Of course, none of us will ever be totally rid of emotions, but we must learn to manage and control them—not let them control us.

Life is no fun when we are controlled by feelings. Feelings change from day to day, hour to hour, even moment to moment. Not only do they change, they lie. For example, you may be in a crowd of people and feel that everybody is talking about you, but that doesn’t mean they are. You may feel that nobody understands you, but that doesn’t mean they don’t. You may feel you are misunderstood, unappreciated or even mistreated, but that doesn’t mean it is true. If we want to be mature, disciplined people, we must be determined not to walk according to what we feel.

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May 8, 2010

The Power of Positive Thinking

Positive thinking is a mental attitude that admits into the mind thoughts, words and images that are conductive to growth, expansion and success. It is a mental attitude that expects good and favorable results. A positive mind anticipates happiness, joy, health and a successful outcome of every situation and action. Whatever the mind expects, it finds.

Not everyone accepts or believes in positive thinking. Some consider the subject as just nonsense, and others scoff at people who believe and accept it. Among the people who accept it, not many know how to use it effectively to get results. Yet, it seems that many are becoming attracted to this subject, as evidenced by the many books, lectures and courses about it. This is a subject that is gaining popularity.

It is quite common to hear people say: "Think positive!", to someone who feels down and worried. Most people do not take these words seriously, as they do not know what they really mean, or do not consider them as useful and effective. How many people do you know, who stop to think what the power of positive thinking means?

Positive and negative thinking are both contagious. All of us affect, in one way or another, the people we meet. This happens instinctively and on a subconscious level, through thoughts and feelings transference and through body language. People sense our aura and are affected by our thoughts. Is it any wonder that we want to be around positive persons and shun negative ones? People are more disposed to help us if we are positive. They dislike and avoid anyone broadcasting negativity.

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March 23, 2010

7 Steps to gain GREAT SUCCESS

1. Choose a definite dream.
2. Put all your energy into that dream.
3. Be willing to do menial work at first.
4. Visualize your dream.
5. Form a strategy.
6. Endure through the hard times.
7. Eliminate any way to retreat

Don't forget, to successful people, there is no such thing as "defeat." What looks like defeat is no more than a great opportunity. Start creating opportunities out of failures and being successful today!



The Secret to Becoming Rich

Napoleon Hill, the author of Think and Grow Rich, believes that a person does not have to be a genius to become rich. Any person can become wealthy if they think positively and have a deep desire to achieve their goals.

Positive Thinking: You must see your financial dreams and know that you will be able to attain them. You must already own them.

If you begin making up every rationalization under the sun why you can't succeed, pinch yourself.
You have to discipline your body and mind to think positive thoughts.

Teach yourself that those kind of thought patterns are unacceptable. You can obtain greatness, even if you are not the smartest, most talented, or best looking person in the world.

Success is yours if you'll just allow it to come into your life. Don't underestimate the power of your thoughts.


March 22, 2010


Love doesn’t make the world go round. Love is what makes the ride more worthwhile.

Life is made up of years that mean nothing compared to moments that mean all.

Life’s incomplete business won’t cease unless life ceases itself. Since you’ve got life in you, keep moving on.

Decisions are a waste of time, unless we follow them with an immediate action. Take a right decision now, and back it up with ACTION.

Always remember, others may hate u. But those who hate you don’t win unless you hate them back. Love them instead.

The Ideal person bears the accidents of life with dignity and grace, and makes the best of circumstances.

People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.

Some of us will find Happiness if we quit struggling so desperately for it.

If you scatter thorns around, then don’t go barefooted.

Our deeds determine us as much as we determine our deeds.


March 20, 2010


Haggai 2:9- The Glory of this Latter house shall be greater than of the former, saith the Lord of Hosts: and in this place will I give peace, saith the Lord of hosts.
The Latter Glory simply refers to the ever abiding unlimited manifold presence of God.
Habakkuk 2:14- For the earth shall be filled with the knowledge of the Glory of the Lord, as the waters cover the sea.

Knowledge, so what do u know about the Glory of God?
What is the glory of God?

The original meaning of glory has to do with weightiness. The glory of God summarizes the awesomeness, seriousness, the perfection, and the infinite significance of all of the attributes of God. It sums up who He is, in the awesome brightness and weightiness of all His perfections.
What does it mean then for us to glorify God?
We cannot add to His glory, for He is already perfectly and infinitely glorious. Rather, for us to glorify God means for us to ascribe the glory that is due His Name in worship. It means that we acknowledge His glory by living as though His perfections are as serious and significant as they really are, so that we reflect His glory through our lives. It means that nothing horrifies us more than the thought of bringing dishonor to His glorious Name, and nothing delights us more than to feel His pleasure as we live to the praise of His glory. It also means that we declare His glory among the nations, inviting others to join us in our love affair with His glorious perfection.

Glorifying God thus consumes and defines every aspect of our life and witness as well as our worship. If the glory of God is our supreme passion, this will redefine both the goal of our task and the manner in which we pursue that task. The goal of our task is that the earth be filled with the knowledge of His glory as the waters cover the sea. Our passion is to see Him receive the glory that is due His Name from every tribe, tongue, people and nation. Everything else is simply a means to that end. We are not merely seeking to add numbers that we can report to the church; we are seeking to add worshippers to the choir of heaven, who will live every area of their lives to the praise of His glory.

John 4:23-24 - But the hour cometh, and now is, when the TRUE worshippers (There are also fake worshippers) shall worship the Father in SPIRIT and in truth: for the Father SEEKETH such to worship Him.


March 16, 2010


Advantages of Honey
We all recognize the value of honey as a sweetener. It’s a tasty and nutritional alternative to standard cane or beet sugar and is a regular part of many people’s diets. Honey can do a lot more than help in the creation of tasty dishes, though. It also has some impressive medical benefits. It’s a food product that has some very tangible advantages in addition to the good taste it provides.

Anyone who has ever enjoyed a spoonful of honey when suffering from a sore throat can vouch for the comfort and relief the liquid provides. Homemade cough treatments featuring honey abound. Whether one is using honey with cinnamon, vinegar, lemon juice or on its own, it can help hold down coughs and sore throats.

Honey contains several important trace minerals, vitamins and a natural antibacterial known as inhibine. That makes it a perfect product for use in a host of other folk remedies. People credit honey with helping a series of maladies ranging from hair loss to bladder infections. Some even claim that honey is a great way to relieve the pain associated with arthritis or to reduce the risk of heart attack by holding down cholesterol levels.

Many allergy sufferers have used honey as a means of handling those challenges. They ingest smaller quantities of honey on a regular basis, as it contains trace remains of pollen, a key allergen. Over time, this practice can desensitize the body. It will “build up a resistance” to pollen and the symptoms of the allergies may disappear.

Honey has power even in those situations when you don’t swallow it. Honey has some medical benefits as a topical application. People with eczema or dry skin can create a honey-based lotion that will make their skin soft and supple. Those suffering from problem skin or blemishes can use honey as an acne-fighting treatment.

If you have a minor burn, a light spread of honey with a dusting of cornstarch can decrease swelling in the surrounding tissues while sealing off the burned area, providing a modicum of pain relief, and working to keep the area clean of bacteria. Honey has been used on other abrasions and scratches in the same way. In fact, medical professionals consider it a perfectly viable treatment.

People swear by honey as a curative for everything from canker sores to hay fever. Honey has long been used in a variety of cultures as a healing substance and as work of its potential continues to grow, more and more people are likely to begin taking advantage of honey’s remarkable properties.

If you aren’t using honey, or only use it as an occasional substitute for sugar, you may want to consider learning more about the golden liquid and the many ways it can be used to improve your overall health and well-being. This information may result in a considerable improvement to your health!



1. Have a Commitment Plan

2. Lifestyle, Not Diet. A diet has a beginning and an end, which is why most people gain weight back.

3. Spirituality
Strength and self-control come from God. Willpower alone is often not enough.

4. Stress Management. Rest and quiet time. Play and have a clean diet; avoid nutrient deficiencies.

5. Regular Exercises relieve stress, increase sense of well-being, increase metabolism and burn fat and calories. It also tone muscles; improve shape and clean blood of toxins. It also improve sleep.

6. Expend More Energy (burn more calories) Than Is Being Taken In (eaten)
Reduce consumption of calories, fat, sugar, and salt. Increase activity to burn more energy.

7. Good Nutrition prevent sickness and disease. Healthy bodies function better. Wise food choices do not make fat bodies.


March 15, 2010


Your heart is a place of decision
If it is evil, you will fall into temptation
Your heart is your intention
As you think, it comes to manifestation
In your heart, is the seat of emotions
Control it, for it determines you actions
Apply your heart to instruction
So as to listen to words of inspiration
So as to listen to words of inspiration
Keep your heart on the right direction


Humility is your humble being
You need it as a human being
Humility makes a person available
You need it to be reckon with
Humility will not boast
Even when it enlarges its coast
Humility is not timidity
Humility is not stupidity
Humility is not just simplicity
Humility is not a virtue
Not everybody has it
It pays to be humble
God resists the proud
But gives grace to the humble
Humility will announce you


Shame is an emotion that many Christian find in their path after poor choices. The realization of what Christians have done hits them. They are sorry for their mistakes but shame is like a door that does not open to allow them to move to a place of safety and restoration. Instead of stopping the downward spiral and moving to good choices, it is easier for many Christians to allow the emotion of shame with his cousin guilt to imprison them. Christians become stuck and this can go on for years or the rest of their lives if emotions are allowed to fuel choices.

What should we do in such a condition?

A choice to override emotions is essential for you to begin the process toward health and freedom. The forces of evil want to keep Christians under the control of shame and guilt. Such a condition will create inner voices that speak negativity, depression, and poor self-worth continually.

What happened when the prodigal son came home? Did he get a scolding or the place of a servant? NO! The father ran to meet him and wept like a baby at the return of his child. God, your Father, is waiting to run to meet those who will turn away from their emotions and confess their errors in choices. He wants to hug Christian singles and burst out with his expressions of love and care for them. Welcome home is waiting for you – now! Read 1John 1:9 “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” Christians loaded with shame and guilt can claim this promise – now! Rom.8:1 “There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit.


March 13, 2010


Some of life’s storms come upon us suddenly as was the case for the disciples in the ship.(Mark 4:37). We suddenly lose someone we love, we have a bitter disappointment, a crushing financial situation, or a physical illness that threatens to change our life forever or even threatens to end it. Other storms may come slowly as you see the sky darken around you and the visibility of your life become dim until it seems a black cloud has surrounded us.

It is in the storms of life that our God equips us for service. The history of mankind has always been rough and rugged. None that wish to be of value in this world will escape the storms that shape and mold us. In the forest, an oak tree becomes great because the storms shake it and the rains beat down upon it and in the battle with the elements the oak develops its rugged fiber and becomes king of the forest. It has learned to sink its roots deep into the soil till it becomes one with the rock beneath it.

Jesus is our Rock and we need to sink our roots of faith deep until we become one with His Truth and Word. “Why are you so fearful? “ This is the victory that has overcome the world, our faith.” I John 5:4