ANGER MANAGEMENT TIPS

10 ways to tame your temper

Anger is a normal and even healthy emotion, but learning how to deal with it in a positive way is important.

Controlling your temper isn't always easy. But these effective anger management tips will help give you the upper hand. Uncontrolled anger can make both you and other people feel lousy. 

If your outbursts, rages or frustrations are negatively affecting relationships with family, friends, co-workers or even complete strangers, it's time to learn some anger management skills. Anger management techniques are a proven way to help change the way you express your anger.

10 tips to help get your anger under control

1. Take a 'timeout.' Although it may seem cliche, counting to 10 before reacting really can defuse your temper.

2. Get some space. Take a break from the person you're angry with until your frustrations subside a bit.

3. Once you're calm, express your anger. It's healthy to express your frustration in a nonconfrontational way. Stewing about it can make the situation worse.

4. Get some exercise. Physical activity can provide an outlet for your emotions, especially if you're about to erupt. Go for a brisk walk or a run, swim, lift weights or shoot baskets.

5. Think carefully before you say anything. Otherwise, you're likely to say something you'll regret. It can be helpful to write down what you want to say so that you can stick to the issues. When you're angry, it's easy to get sidetracked.

6. Identify solutions to the situation. Instead of focusing on what made you mad, work with the person who angered you to resolve the issue at hand.

7. Use 'I' statements when describing the problem. This will help you to avoid criticizing or placing blame, which can make the other person angry or resentful — and increase tension. For instance, say, "I'm upset you didn't help with the housework this evening," instead of, "You should have helped with the housework."

8. Don't hold a grudge. If you can forgive the other person, it will help you both. It's unrealistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as you want.

9. Use humor to release tensions. Lightening up can help diffuse tension. Don't use sarcasm, though — it's can hurt feelings and make things worse.

10. Practice relaxation skills. Learning skills to relax and de-stress can also help control your temper when it may flare up. Practice deep-breathing exercises, visualize a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word or phrase to yourself, such as "Take it easy." Other proven ways to ease anger include listening to music and writing.

BUILDING YOUR SELF ESTEEM

Commitment, control and challenge help build self-esteem and promote positive thinking. People with these characteristics are winners in good times and survivors in hard times.

Commitment

Make a positive commitment to yourself, to learning, work, family, friends, nature, and other worthwhile causes. Praise yourself and others. Dream of success. Be enthusiastic.

Control

Keep your mind focused on important things. Set goals and priorities for what you think and do. Visualize to practice your actions. Develop a strategy for dealing with problems. Learn to relax. Enjoy successes. Be honest with yourself.

Challenge

Be courageous. Change and improve each day. Do your best and don't look back. See learning and change as opportunities. Try new things. Consider several options. Meet new people. Ask lots of questions. Keep track of your mental and physical health. Be optimistic.
  

 

7 Suggestions:

In every class, look for positive people to associate with.

In every lecture, look for one more interesting idea.

In every chapter, find one more concept important to you.

With every friend, explain a new idea you've just learned.

With every teacher, ask a question.

With yourself, keep a list of your goals, positive thoughts and actions.

Remember, you are what you think, you feel what you want.

OVERCOMING THE DEVIL'S BONDAGE

The Devil – It is time for you to break loose from this misery and bondage. You no longer need to accept your situation – move toward liberation and you will emerge happier, with a more developed personality.  

The change has occurred – only the "feelings" of sadness, anger or depression remain to influence you. Deal with your past, use the knowledge and energy bound up in your experiences – transform them and releasing the energy contained within them. Free yourself from your past habits – your ignorance and indecision is a weakness and it is causing this instability – recognize this influence and take the necessary action against it.

Deal with your problems and avoid emotional outbreaks. Being timid will only emphasize your weakness – it is time for you to take the bull by the horns and do your own thing. The power that seems to be limiting you – is the power that will liberate you. Listen to your "inner" voice, go inside – sift out the truth from the illusion and enlighten your mind. Your emotional overindulgence has resulted in exhaustion and boredom. You have gone overboard and you need to find your balance now – start living and stop denying yourself life experiences. If you want to swim again – you must first get in the water and get wet. Evil occurs only when too much attention has been paid to it. YOU HAVE WHAT IT TAKES TO LIVE ABOVE THE GUILES OF THE FATHER OF LIES.